In the past year of pandemic, several mental health issues have been brought to light. According to statistics, there has been a significant rise in mental health issues in all age groups, especially teenagers. Moreover, studies show that there has also been an increase in adolescent suicides during covid because of the stress and pressure put on children.
Though recent trends have made parent’s aware of their child’s mental health, why teens are unable to share their worries with the parent? One of the biggest cause behind this is Bad parenting.
Here are 5 major examples of Bad Parenting :
- Fear of Being Misunderstood: In their teenage years, children don’t know how to express their thoughts and emotion to their parents because of the fear of being misunderstood. This atmosphere of fear prevents a child from expressing a mistake/failure that they encountered. Moreover, there can be a situation where the actions of a child differ from his normal personality. Parents resort to anger to control the situation whereas the solutions lie in acceptance and guidance.
- Constant Comparison: This is one of the root cause of mental issues. Being constantly compared to someone ignites a kind of self-doubt and self-pity in a person. As adults, Parents should understand it even better that every child’s thinking pattern, his/her pace of doing things is different. A slow pace of doing things doesn’t necessarily mean that a child is naive and gullible and at the same time having a fast pace doesn’t guarantee success.
- Imposing Opinions: Every Individual has the right to have the freedom of forming opinions. Parents often forget that opinions are just a point of view and opinions can be wrong. Their child may not have the same interests and opinions as them. Having a wrong point of view about something may encourage him/her to accept mistakes and search for the truth. Having different opinions of certain areas of life is completely normal and parents should embrace this behaviour rather than oppose it.
- Managing Emotions: One of the prime mistakes parents make is that they don’t teach their children how to effectively manage emotions. Teenagers go through a roller-coaster of emotions throughout these years, from anger and frustration to sadness and even depression. It’s because they don’t have a clear understanding of their emotions and instead of guiding them, some parents are very reluctant towards it. They treat it as some kind of temporary phase rather than understanding the root of an issue. As a result, teens often choose to suppress their emotions, thoughts and fears.
The Solution :
The solution lies in the hands of parents. As a parent, one should constantly educate himself//herself about how the younger generation operates i.e what are the recent trends that shape their mind. Moreover, they should be adaptive to change. Having rigid opinion about everything, won’t help in solving this issue.
Creating a fear-free environment may encourage kids to express themselves freely. Moreover, a delicate situation should be handled with utmost care, rather than resorting to anger or violence, a parent should deal with it calmly.
I hope it was worth the read, Thank you!