To be a caring, loving, responsible, and protective parent is one thing, but “protective to overprotective, it is another thing, which can damage the children’s self-esteem, and security in themselves, to believe in them as thinking and intelligent beings.
Parents protectors: They love the children, they take care of the well-being of the family, in health, education, advice, protection influences exemplarily their children, that they learn to have security in themselves, they advise so that the children have own esteem, they guide them wisely from the childhood even until in adult age, it has to its charge the well-being or the security of one.A protective parents will teach their children lovingly and with patience, warning them about the dangers that they must evade, being careful all the time, guiding them wisely in selecting their friendship, instructing them on how to use intelligence in all senses, granting them confidence, self-confidence, avoiding falling into a dangerous situations, granting them limited privileges like playing with friends at their house, watching movies, but advising them be cautious and not trust in strangers, and keeping in touch with their parents. Hence, give them few assignments so they can start learning about what it is to be responsible, thus showing them how to become sociable. These are just a few things that a protective parent can teach their children.
Overprotective parents:Every responsible parent who loves his family always thinks of the right way to protect their children.An overprotective parent can cause children to grow up afraid to face the daily life alone as sample at school.Which parents are overprotective:
1] Obviously every minor needs constant protection, taking them to school and picking them up from school, it is the obligation and normal protection of every parent. In this aspect, they should be inculcated that they should only get into the car of the family, the father, the mother, or an older sibling, logically this is urgent and necessary, to give this warning to the children.
2] They are not allowed to go and play with friends from school, because the danger is imminent and it is better to have them safe at home, not outside the home.
3] They don’t teach them to believe in themselves as intelligent beings
4] They instill in them constant fears that only with their parents are safe, that’s why they should always be at home
5] They are not taught that it is necessary to socialize with school friends, because there is a lot bad people everywhere.
6] They are not motivated to do small responsibilities in the house, for fear that they will hurt themselves.
7] School trips, they definitely don’t go, that’s the response of some parents, it’s necessary to give them that little freedom so that they feel responsibility that they have to learn to take care of themselves, while they are with their school friends, it’s the way to begin to socialize themselves, but under the care of one of their teachers.
These are some important points to stop being a little overprotective, otherwise the fear will flood the children and they will never believe in themselves as beings as it should be.The experience of being a parent is a great responsibility, and we precisely have to instill in the children, that they have to be careful, and keep their eyes wide open and not be fooled by anyone.I have always said, life is a jungle, and we have to learn to live in it, and teach our children from a young age because we are not always going to be all life around them. But if we don’t intelligently teach our children how to protect themselves as well, we will make them beings with lack of self-esteem, fear of everything, and without security of themselves.We can intelligently protect them by having our invisible wings so that they feel free from fear, and trust themselves. I understand that nowadays we see so many horrible cases, that’s why we have to talk to our children, so that they live alert and with care.Once again I emphasize the necessity for parents to provide their children with cell phones, make sure to install apps to avoid anyone contacting them, or suddenly curiosity leads them to enter pages not suitable for children.