Speaking about EQ (Emotional Quotient), all should learn that it is as important as IQ (Intelligence Quotient) in fact sometimes more than it and its also verified by personalities like John Mayer, Peter Salovey, Daniel Goleman and so on. EQ is the level of the ability to understand emotions and feelings of others while IQ is strength of one’s ability of reasoning and knowledge of the world. Seeing the current scenario of the world we can derive a conclusion that we have machines to measure everything but not emotions and feelings, only soul can understand soul and mind can understand mind. The cases of people with anxiety and depression along with suicide cannot be seen declining. They can be handled if there is high understanding and controlling of emotions and feelings, in other words high EQ.
We see how today’s world is biased towards the basic intelligence, also pushing everyone to grow it up neglecting similarly important EQ and this is what we have to aim to change. Ask yourself, if mental state is unhealthy than what use of the knowledge of world, we will be able to make? Living in a competitive world where while we struggle to grow fast, we underestimate the pressure we bear and it comes out to be the major factor of why we are unable to focus, concentrate and end up messing things. To co-ordinate at greater level or to make blooming partnership with any it is must to understand the vision of the person and it is impossible with low EQ.
When it comes to the statistics, Dr. Travis Bradberry states 90% of the top performers have high EQ. Also, EQ is responsible for 58% of job performance. Research also shows that 80% success of life depends upon EQ. Moreover, 59% of recruiters do not hire someone with EQ lower than IQ.
Now, let’s understand by real life instances. At any unknown time, there can strike things that disturbs us from top to bottom but if we know how to control them, we have no negative effect of it instead we grow stronger. We see professions like defense, law, ones linked to medical and so on where there is no space for emotions and every process or protocol needs to be followed by rules and by being emotionless otherwise either we spoil the work or the work spoils us, in both we loose. So, to avoid such happenings we are required to have better EQ. Knowing what you speak in front of strangers being emotional or feeling connected in a short period of time (which we often experience) is as important as knowing what we are speaking in an important meeting, this again implies that EQ is equally important as IQ. Apart from restricting the flow of emotions it is also necessary to let them out. But both differ in their timings and circumstances which can be learned by learning about emotions and feeling or say gaining EQ. There are cases where a death of close one devastates the mind in ways where the person becomes so cold that it can also put them into a serious trouble. Hence, in is needful to let the tears come out of the person and set him/her free from burden of griefs he/she was packing and suppressing internally.
Most of the relationship disputes happen because either we cannot convey what exactly we are feeling to others or we misjudge the emotions of the other person. This is because we aren’t enough knowledgeable about emotions and feelings and fall in the pit. We can see people with high intelligence too in the same situation. That’s where Emotional Quotient takes over Intelligence Quotient. Not only this but to have a proper & safe communication, to free the emotional burden, to run the relationships with mutual understanding and for many similar conditions there is severe need of at least basic EQ. There is a famous quote that almost all have heard that states “Before you criticize a man, walk a mile in his shoes” but what we didn’t grabbed is, it is not only about the understanding of his circumstances but also about his feels and emotions and EQ is what makes it happen. Coming up to end, the aim is to bring everyone closer to a step where there should be no counteract questions on the importance of EQ because if IQ is important to be successful then EQ is important for free and stable living with stable mind. Success is nothing to an ill-minded but one with stable mindset has chances and hope to gain it again.